Ask Dr. Helen: Do Husbands Owe Wives Post-Childbirth ‘Push Presents?’
I received a very nice diamond bracelet from my husband when I gave birth to our son 12 years ago – flowers too. He gave me flowers when I gave birth to our daughter 2 years later. I recall that he felt a great deal of gratitude for what I went through in the deliveries and recoveries (the first was difficult and long, the second a scheduled C-) – he frequently expressed it.
He’s a man who enjoys giving gifts, a wonderful father and supportive spouse. When he’s received work promotions, I’ve bought him gifts or encouraged him to buy something he’s had his eye on – why not? He deserves it.
Expecting a present is a surefire way to be disappointed, no matter what the occasion. Gifts ought to be given freely or not at all.
I cannot imagine being married to anyone who did not show his appreciation, or who I did not want to show appreciation to.
