jackson’s entire mindset, like that of the culture at large, is absurd. if there is one zone of human relations where one is most likely to “mugged by reality,” this is it. even as a beneficiary of the sexual promiscuity of the contemporary era, it is obviously disgusting and distracts from the genuine pursuit: finding love. if you do not regard that as the primary purpose, you are scum. if you do not want to raise a family, and you argue that your way is better or equal, you are scum. Period, end of discussion. unfortunately, it is the women of the present generation who are to blame: it is they who control the situation. how many men here have dated, are dating, or are married to girls who’ve been with 20 or 30 guys? who have had abortions? who have std’s, to say nothing of tattoos and tongue piercings? is this really preferable? is this really a freer, more authentic way of living? i think to say it is simply a socially-acceptable form of rank bullsh&t. whatever happened to the notion of the civilizing sex? the social and legal prohibitions against male sexual misconduct are well-known and rigidly, almost hysterically enforced – hysterically, in light of their counterparts’ behavior. it is beyond question – it is even so common and well-known as to be beyond intellectual interest – to discuss such male misconduct. and after all, that is not what has changed: what has changed is women’s allowing it an outlet, and society’s indulgance, if not encouragement of it. i’ll say it a thousand times: sex & te city is about UNHAPPY WOMEN. STOP EMULATING THEM, YOU MORONS. they should be laughed at and scorned, not idealized, not even for consolation. if this all sounds rather extreme, it is only because i see the effect on the girls i know, i hear their words, i see how this influences how they think, i see the decisions they make. are they happier? no. at least acknowledging it would be a reasonable beginning, and it wouldn’t inspire such a snitty tone from people like me.
