I agree with the feminists on most issues. I am proudly pro-choice. I believe that a woman should be able to be whatever she wants to be. I believe that not every woman will be satisfied with a life as wife and mother. I believe that the double standard that calls a man is a “stud”, but a woman who exhibits the same behavior is a “slut” is hypocritical. I believe that young women should be able to enjoy sex without being judged for it. I believe that popular culture sells horrible and degrading messages to young women. I also believe that socialization based on gender stereotypes puts women at a serious disadvantage in the world.
That being said, the problem I have with feminism is that most feminists embrace victimhood instead of moving beyond it. I don’t think I have to tell anyone here that if a woman sees herself as a victim, then she is probably going to remain one. Yes, women have been wronged throughout history. But there comes a time when you have to stop complaining and start becoming the change you want to see. If a man tries to verbally dominate a discussion, speak up! (Hint: It’s not because you are a woman – these same men try to do this to other men all the time.) If you don’t like domineering, misogynist jerks, don’t date them! There are plenty of men out there who appreciate a confident woman who can think for herself.
Of course, I also have little patience for the men who whine about feminism because they can’t get laid. They are the male version of the feminist victim. Also, there are the women who want equality until it’s time to pay for the date. With rights come responsibilities. Either you are an equal or you are not. You can’t have it both ways.
