A Comment About

Are Privileged Western Women Being Crushed into Silence?

April 14, 2008 - 1:01 am - by Amy Alkon
Amy Alkon
2008-04-16 23:55:46

The vast majority of people who have kicked/banned/killed me have been atheists, like yourself, dearie. And all because I was expressing my christian ethics in a manner that was obviously proving to be too effective for your personal form of ‘Faith’ to cope with.

This isn’t the case. And Chuck, I’ve only banned, I believe, five people, since 2003 — most of them for posting libelous stuff under the name of an actual real person. (One woman in Wisconsin pretended to be a guy in Texas from “Ain’t It Cool.”)

Plenty of people of faith post on my site and are not banned, because I believe that free and open debate is the best way to advance thought on an issue. Also, I really enjoy it. You have to be REPEATEDLY abusive to get banned from my site, and to a great degree. Shockingly, it seems I’m one of many people who has considered you repeatedly abusive. If many of those who ban you are atheists, perhaps that’s because you post on a lot of atheists’ sites, and are anything but “Christian” in your behavior.

Finally, I bet a lot of people here post on a number of sites. Like me, they have probably never been banned by one of them. And not because they necessarily have opinions concurring with those whose sites they post on, but because they are not abusive jerks who turn every discussion into a personal grandstanding opportunity. When you buy the bandwidth, you’re free to turn your own comments section into a tedious and highly repetitive flurry of posts about your MENSA membership, and what it means. Have at it.

Misanthropicus, above, clearly gets it.

To Emmanuelle: I’m 44, and what does age have to do with being gutless? I know ballsy older women who wouldn’t let themselves be silenced by anybody, man or woman. And let’s be clear on this: She wasn’t actually silenced, she simply didn’t have the courage or personal fortitude to speak up. Perhaps she can get by in the knitting circle with this sort of behavior, but in the real world, you have to unzip the old lip and stand up for yourself. If women want equality, they actually have to act equal, not demand special treatment under the guise of equal treatment. Naturally, you try to connect this with some form of persecution.

As for this from Emmanuelle: “Denied the validity of her experience”

Oh, please. People dispute what other people say all the time. I do it to men and women. The fact that Solnit is so limp as a human being that she can’t dispute their disputation using her words at the time, instead of the LA Times probably years later, isn’t a reason to blame men, but a reason to go in for some apparently much-needed therapy.

Here, let me help. The late Albert Ellis, one of the cofounders of cognitive behavioral therapy, has a list of therapists around the world who were trained by his non-profit Institute: http://www.albertellisinstitute.org/aei/index.html#