Ask Dr. Helen: Does a Father-Free Home Breed Success — Or Just Power-Hungry Politicians?
In my experience it’s not whether or not the father is in the home it’s whether or not he is involved with his children. Me and the father of my sons’ divorced when they were 10 and 5, I moved 800 miles away. He was involved as much as he could be, I let them stay with him every summer and every break they got in school. My father stepped in with my oldest and was involved with him in Scouts (He’s an Eagle). After graduation from high school he moved up to his dads. My youngest is more into sports and when he was 15 he decided to move to his dads. It broke my heart to lose my two sons within 1 year but my oldest son told me that it was for the best, that his younger brother needed his dad. My oldest did a lot of “dad” things with my youngest and he was there too. I didn’t fight it because I knew deep down that they were right. Dad’s are important to boys, especially in the teen years. Both of my boys are awesome men!
Daddy’s are very important to daughters, they give us an identity and teach us how we should be loved. I remarried and had a daughter and that marriage tanked too. We have a daughter and I have turned down positions for career advancements that would take her away from her father.
It all boils down to the dad being a dad, whether they are in the same house or not. And that means us mom’s need to let them.
