Dr. Helen,
I am one of those guys who have turned his back on marriage and family because I have seen what it has done to my peers.
I’m a 40yr old professional white American male, never married, no kids. I do not gamble because the odds are stacked. For that same reason I will never get married or have kids. Never ever, no way, never.
Any man considering marriage should consider the decision as being the same as betting everything he has, and will ever have, on a flip of a coin.
In the US there is better than a fifty-fifty chance a marriage will end in divorce.
If you win the bet and have happy marriage, the befits can be longer life, health, kids, good sex life, the house with a picket fence. Keep in mind you will be the one supporting the family and paying for all the stuff, but that’s ok because you love them and want them to be happy.
If you loose the bet– give up everything you now own and pay to support her for the rest of your life and/or be sent to prison.
On top of that, support the children that you may never see again and will most likely blame you for everything, for the rest of your life and/or be sent to prison.
If you never take the bet, you may still get the some of the benefits and will be not be forced to pay for your bad bet for the rest of you life and not have to risk going to prison for nonpayment of child support or some story your ex-wife concocted to get back you for marring her.
As far as a woman considering marriage, I’d take that bet in a second, if it does not work out for her, she gets his stuff and a check each month for the rest of his life. Not a bad deal.
Its sad to me that marriage has become an unreasonable risk. Russian roulette has better odds and if you loose that bet you suffer for a moment not years.
