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Thanks, “Ruth.” Your statement about power versus sex not only rang true, it clanged true!

At the same time, I agree with a number of men who say it’s always about sex, and I believe that’s true in their experience and the experience of almost all men they know.

But they and I agree only until the question becomes what *kind* of sex and what *price* is the sex? When one wants sex that is exclusive mainly for the sake of exclusivity, then it isn’t just sex any more, it’s exclusive sex — and that’s about power, not just sex.

The way you spelled out the power/sex facet clarifies one aspect of what some men will or will not do for sex, or what they thinks they are capable of. Unfortunately for the men who have isolated themselves with their exercises of power, they find themselves more and more cut off from their essential human vulnerability.

One thing that is very healing and spiritual for a man is to surrender his ego to a woman, and sex (mystic ecstasy) can be a gateway for that to happen. Surrender of the ego is, of course, the polar opposite of the egotistical exercises of power that the johns are indulging in — each exercise of which naturally takes them further from spiritual health.

~ Jolene