Reading all these men’s comments, it sounds like there is NOT much of a problem if the woman earns more in a generally healthy relationship.
I think a more interesting & difficult question is, how to do deal with the more general role-reversal that takes place in a perhaps less than perfect marriage?
I earn about 3x what my husband does. He’s at home during the day (alone), I’m at home during the evening (with the kids) while he works.
It bugs me to walk in from work and have to make dinner. It bugs me that in the many, many hours of time he has around the house, he barely manages a little bit of housework. It bugs me to pay for a cleaning lady b/c he won’t put in the two to three hours a week it takes to do the yucky cleaning. It bugs me that my “free” time in the evening is all taken up with homework, baths, bedtime, etc so that I don’t have any down time at all during the week.
He DOES do a number of things I appreciate – paying bills, grocery shopping, yardwork.
But I know, I just know, that if our roles were reversed, he’d expect the person at home all day to do some cooking, fold the laundry, mop the floors once in awhile.
If I talk to him about doing more around the house, I’m “nagging” – if I protest the expensive vacation or fancy TV he wants, I’m “controlling”.
It sucks.
