Okay…. Firstly, a question. Have you really worked out the way the situation makes YOU feel and act/react? I only ask this because as a stay at home dad with my wife the sole breadwinner in the house I most often notice that she is the one with issues concerning the current arrangement. Both fiscally and emotionally. Of course, from time to time, I do feel somewhat emasculated and under appreciated, but I try to approach these feelings with dialogue and honesty with my wife. On the other hand, I usually end up having to argue with her to get her to open up about what she’s feeling and how she interprets signals she may or may not be getting from me. And that’s just it, really. Psychologically speaking, the most common problem in these arrangements is a lack of or perceived lack of honesty regarding our real feelings in situations such as these and our lack of communication or inability to communicate on these feelings with our spouses or partners. I honestly and wholeheartedly recommend a certain type and amount of therapy, if for no other reason than to provide a basis for open and honest discourse, without patronizing or communication breakdowns that are the result of so many well intended spousal discussions.
