I also think it is a matter of “communication.” My wife has always made somewhat more than I do (60/40?). However, it is not due to anything other than the prevailing wages for our professions. In fact, despite my somewhat lower pay, my profession comes with more “prestige.” But unconsiously she has sometimes acted in a disrespectful fashion regarding money as a result of the disparity. So, I have firmly (sometimes very firmly) walked her through the golden rule (treat others the way…) and not accepted a subservient role. Usually this communication has resulted in better behavior on both of our parts as my wife really wants a close relationship more than to be in charge. In other words, when I feel that she is being controlling about money, it that she is not aware of how she is making me feel and feels regretful when I make her aware. Finally, no matter what her income, I think I am way too alpha to ever let my wife make decisions for me. They simply wouldn’t stick.
