I wrote this regarding one of the consequences of the changes that have come about in our society over the last twenty years, I hope everyone start thinking about the law of unintended consequences before dramatic decisions are made.
I believe that before legislation regarding the adoption of children by homosexuals is considered, there are questions that as a society we should insist the homosexual community answers. Questions like:
1.- What explanation do you give these children when they ask why did they come to be adopted, and why they don’t have a “conventional” adoptive mother or father?
2.- When you speak to them, do you refer to heterosexual couples as the norm, or do you encourage them to follow on your footsteps?
3.- They say that a parent’s love for their children is the most unselfish love there is. Parents normally want the best for their young, they want for them a better life than the one they led; they normally try not to place their children in situations in which they are going to be embarrassed, teased, or made uncomfortable. If love is what drives your desire to adopt a child, how do you justify putting them through spiritual and emotional confusion throughout their lives?
4.- How do you feel about a religious upbringing?
There are also questions that we as a society must answer. Questions like:
1.- Is adoption a right? Is it a privilege subject to specific requirements, and having as its main goal the best interest of the children?
2.- There are countless stories of heterosexual couples that have gone to Latin America, to Russia, to Eastern Europe, or even to China to adopt a child. Why have they had to do so? What can we do to change this? Should we first try to solve this situation before resorting to homosexual adoptions as a solution?
3.- Should we re-examine the nature of our society based upon the fact that we live in one that denies adoption to thousands of heterosexual parents, while allowing homosexuals to adopt? Why should homosexuality be acceptable, but bigamy, and polygamy not? Are these less natural relationships than those of homosexuals?
4- Should we revisit our position as a society with respect to laws dealing with prostitution and consensual adult incest among others, in addition to the ones mentioned above?
5.- Do we expect children reared in a homosexual environment to later in life function normally in a heterosexual relationship?
6.- Should we as a society make it mandatory that children reared in a homosexual environment receive special training in the way of heterosexual couples? Should this training be neutral, or should the heterosexual way of life be encouraged or shown to be the preferred or normal way of mankind? Who should pay for the cost of this training?
7.- What traumas, if any, are we fostering on these children?
8.- What responsibility if any will homosexual couples that separate have with regards to the child society has placed in their care? What rules if any is society to dictate with regards to the children of heterosexual couples when either the husband or the wife chooses to embrace homosexuality?
9.- To what extent by allowing homosexuals to adopt children are we forcing society, for the love and welfare of those children, to preach and accept homosexuality as a normal behavior?
This is not a simple matter, the only objective must be to help the child, as a society we have a duty to make the right decision.
