Nicodemus,
You make a good point. I do realize that I can “get away with” raising my voice in an angry manner because I am a woman and no one will say much back to me. I use that to make my points at times. If I were male, I would probably take more of RodgerS’s advice above and say something about the tip. Both of these strategies are a type of conditioning that may cause the waitress to reconsider her position on men, or at least get her to stop the negativity in front of children (my daughter) etc.
Another reason I am particularly sensitive to this type of behavior is because of the thousands of men and boys that I have seen in my practice over the years–I understand how negative stereotypes of boys affect them much more than people realize and the consequences of that negativity. It is easy to laugh off male bashing and negative stereotypes of men as unimportant or something to ignore but young boys are listening and picking up on what is being said. I wonder how this negativity will play out in subsequent generations?
