I was thinking the other day that men contribute to the problem between the sexes by treating their women (wife, girlfriend, whatever) the same way we treat men. That is: We often compete with them, try to leverage or take advantage of them, or even cheat them.
In response, probably out of self-defense, women have learned to also behave like men, treating them in like fashion. This of course raises the bar, and that bar keeps us apart.
If you watch “The Benny Goodman Story” or “Strategic Air Command” (I love TCM), you’ll see a male/female relationship played out without that kind of baggage on either side. It’s quite a remarkable thing to see played out.
I agree that if a man complains about a woman’s behavior, he’ll get garbage from PC-types. It’s a no-win situation. However, it is worth exploring the problems male/female relationships face without the customary male-bashing that’s so popular these days, if we are ever to understand ourselves and work out something more satisfactory. Obviously, the current state of affairs has resulted in men refusing to marry (or in some cases, have ANY relationships with women). That doesn’t mean they’re ‘losers’ (though I suppose some ‘losers’ have always taken that path), but it does mean something’s wrong in our approach.
If you watch any film from about the mid-seventies to the nineties involving male/female relationships, it is nearly always the man who is at fault. The man who expresses an interest in sex is always a pervert. Women want to be “loved for their mind”, though it is (hypocritically) acceptable to love a man for his ability to procure.
In fact, this modern PC concept of “loving a woman for her mind” really shows just how far off base women have wandered – and how lost men have become in dutifully accepting that ridiculous notion. A man who says he “loves a woman for her mind” (for what? Her Harvard degree? Her ability to add large columns of numbers in her head? The speed with which she reads Ulysses?) is either duplicitous or insane. A man either loves a woman’s heart, or not at all.
And, by the way, vice-versa.
