Richard,
No, it is not like that for all men in America. But, it seems more prevalent (and ridiculous) than ever before.
Granddaddy LL,
I disagree. However, I too would have a hard not flexing my testosterone around women like that. But, when considering my own relationship(s) with my wife and mother (now deceased) I think it might be worth a try.
Women like that (described above) appear to reject “manliness” as it the source of their “troubles”. So, your suggestion to man up is defeating I think. Think of it like pulling back on a charging dog. They pull to resist. But, deflect them to the side and they disconnect.
I have a tendency to dismiss my wife’s concerns with various “man related” things around the home. As a result it creates a wedge between us. So, after I realize what I just did (and mellow out a little) I discuss with her my project plans and listen to her ideas. Whether it be construction foresight or something as simple as packing the car, she can’t see things like I can. But, she just wants to be considered. And she appreciates when I show her how sound my plan is. Win-win? It’s been helping me improve my relationship. YMMV.
So, the good doctor’s advice may yield some results where the manly routine will likely fail. The one reason I eluded to above is because we (men) need to try and communicate in a way we are not used to. Secondly, if what you are doing now isn’t working, why not try a different approach?
Maybe it is just easier to dismiss? You don’t seem to care to try. Why care if they call you “gay”?
I’ve decided to try different approaches from time to time. Life seems better.
Cheers.
