Well, does the letter-writer wish to receive more apologies? Or has s/he taken a searching and fearless moral inventory, and gone on out to apologize to others, to extend the state of grace?
I did have a longer post that the computer ate, but I think that’s the gist of it: it’s terrific being on the receiving end of grace- but it’s hard work practicing grace towards another human being.
I think doing quite a bit of that would explain why apologies on the level s/he received are rare.
I hope that the LW is grateful to have been the recipient of an act of contrition, done willingly, and thoroughly. It’s not likely a gift they will receive in full again in their lifetime. It’s pretty special- both parties agreed on the particulars, and the apportioning of blame. That’s rarer than hen’s teeth.
It’s what keeps marriage counsellors in business. It’s also what makes a strong, happy marriage a wonder- acts of forgiveness have likely occurred, and outside parties might never know what they are- just that they like the results- like warm sunshine and tropical breezes.
