Men don’t marry because men are the more rational sex. Men are getting all the benefits of a marriage in a relationship, none of the burdens (notice I didn’t say “responsibilities”). Marriage becomes either the surrender of a hooked man to a nagging woman, or an act of martyrdom for children.
They say “it’s the economy, stupid” about politics. Well, about marriage: “it’s the sex, stupid”. I’m a Christian who doesn’t fornicate, and, (shockingly?) I look at a prospective woman as nothing other than a wife or a mother. At the same time, I see women who fornicate as unwifely and unmotherly. Men, at least on a subliminal level, must see the same. Who’s more wifely, a nineteen-year-old virgin, or a 30-year-old Sex and the City character?
Don’t lie to yourselves. “Wife” and “mother” are inherently old-fashioned, and the new-fashioned woman is a lower quality wife. Men know it, women know it. Big picture, men are paying much more for marriage now, and getting much less.
To sum up, like most of the men who are reading this, I do not want to marry most of the women who are reading this. The difference is that I do not want to fornicate with them temporarily either, so I will not at any time have to awkwardly detach myself from that arrangement.
