I find it interesting that no one has mentioned the idea of the man and the woman becoming one in marriage. It seems everyone is talking about what they ‘get’ out of the marriage. My three sisters and I had no trouble finding good men — and we are opinionated, loving, caring, sometimes acerbic, nurturing, sharp when exhausted (i.e. when raising little kids), apologetic when we go to far, self-centered sometimes – selfless at others, medium attractive women. My niece just got engaged to a good man (she’s 25, he’s a bit younger) and he has traveled with our whole family so we could get to know him (remember, he is my niece’s fiance — he did not need to spend 10 days with aunts/uncles/cousins/grandmas/grandpas — but he did and we love him). In every case, the son-in-laws have become pivitol members of our family — and we daughter-in-laws (except for one case where the husband’s mother can not let go) are members of our husbands families. We are not a homogenous group. My husband is from Wisconsin, another husband is from Japan, another husband is from California, and the fourth husband is from Maryland. We have not all gotten along perfectly throughout the years — but we are one family so we love each other regardless. It seems to me that the problem with marriage as outlined in this blog is most people don’t think they are becoming one family through their marriage — warts and all.
Why?
