Dan puts it well: “The sexual pact at the core of marriage has always included two promises: exclusivity and abundance.” It’s a lot better than a Jerry Springer-guest saying, “A man not being taken care of at home will find someone who will.”
I think that unsatisfying sex, whether it be not enough in general or not enough of certain types of sex, is a major issue ignored in the whole “relationship” debate.
My ex-wife put on 40 pounds, and I didn’t find her sexually attractive. My ex-wife decided that she didn’t like having a certain type of sex after we were married. How convenient. I might have put up with all the other crap if the sex was good.
It’s somehow become normal for married men to expect less sex after getting married. It’s not normal. A man is programmed to have a lot of sex with as many women as possible. For a man to commit to a monogamous relationship, he gets a lot of sex with one woman. That’s the deal. No negotiation. No re-negotiation.
Whenever a guy at work or play bitches to me about not getting sex (or a type of sex) from his wife or girlfriend, I tell them straight up, “Leave!” He won’t be happy. And she won’t be happy when he starts ignoring her because he’s not getting sex.
