Coaster said:
The reason I’ve become comfortable with the idea of remaining single is, quite simpply, I don’t have enough lifespan left to re-make my life, should that happen again. I just can’t afford to drop half again, and hope to be able to recover again. It’s fine when you’re 19-25 and you both have nothing, and something goes wrong, so you split the debt and call it a day, but when you actually have something substantial to lose, and you’re only about 20 years out from retirement…it gives you pause.
That is another thing that has occurred to me as to why it is so important to find the right partner first time around. I know my career will have me pretty busy. Even discounting the financial loss of a divorce, I know my life outside work would dissolve. I don’t know how I could rebuild my life after investing so much of it in a spouse. I couldn’t even fathom meeting new people — who would have the time or confidence? All the while, attempting to rebuild your life with the milestone of alimony around your neck.
