I’m a 60-ish guy, and I don’t think I qualify as a ‘perpetual adolescent.’ I’ve been married twice; the first marriage lasted 27 years, and the second is approaching 15 years. And I’ve raised 5 children, who range in age from 40 years to 3 weeks (the latter being ‘unplanned’, to say the least!!)
But I am agonizing over what kind of advice to give my 13 year old son, in a few more years, regarding marriage. There is *no way* that I could advise him with a clear conscience to marry an American woman in the current legal climate. It’s suicidal — perhaps even literally.
A few years ago, I would have advised him to go find a third world girl (like his mother) and bring her home. But now, even that loophole has been closed, thanks to the latest Federal insanity (not sure, but I think it’s part of VAWA) that basically offers immigrant women free citizenship in return for fabricating fake ‘domestic violence’ accusations against their husbands.
Today, I think the best advice would probably be: Go to a third world country and marry a local girl and just plan on living there util your children are grown. When your kids get to be mid-teenagers, apply for US citizenship for them, and a Green Card for your wife; if the marrieage has lasted that long, you’re probably safe. And if not, you’re only looking at a few years of child support, rather than 21 years.
