Helen, as a single father who’s been through the divorce industry’s ringer for 12 years, and who still loves women, I can easily confirm Baskerville’s observations about the staggeringly unconstitutional family law problem. Marriage means vast personal risk, typically to men. I’m not going there ever again and I’m sure millions agree with and hold that decision themselves.
But I want to address the myths I’ve uncovered in those 12 years, a dozen years dating perhaps two dozen women.
1. The notion that women want emotional security is a myth. They want financial security and evidently by nearly any means. Emotional security these days is constituted of replacing the male protector with the State. Men are actually impediments to such “security”, hence the security of a male companion or life partner is destroyed. American women place no evident value on the emotional security of a true partner, per se. In fact, they reject and even destroy it when they find it.
2. Communication. Pursuant #1, a typical single woman has built a network of like-minded women and thus-emasculated single men. Communications are limited to vagaries, superficialities, and keeping up the luxury of State-assisted escapism. Men, as before, are girlfriends, and not equipped for classic male relationships of any duration. The myth of a need for communication is just that. The irony is that the more communicative a man is, the more he becomes a girlfriend.
3. The most disturbing myth is that of the desirable sensitive male, that again pursuant #1 and #2. Every single male friend I have confirms that women have far more need to be spoken down to or at than they do to be treated as an intellectual equal or emotional/spiritual peer. In fact, women consistently admit being attracted to abusive men, the Bad Boys they think excite them and give them access to alpha characteristics. The sensitive, compassionate, truthful male is obsolete. Women no more respect them than they can themselves.
Without question, the contemporary, liberated, American female is a quagmire of internal conflict, torn between the “excitement” of going it on her own against/with male curs because it excites her, and living with the knowledge that society and government policy offer her some degree of protection from them. She is by now her own self-fulfilling prophecy
She has accepted being taught that her animalistic sex-in-the-city core is all she is, and that higher level function such as spiritual love, permanence, fidelity, honor, and accountability are social impediments. The feminization of women themselves at the hands of feminism’s myths has stripped her of her self-worth, to replace it with the accouterments of political access and the myth of liberation.
While it’s painful to see that many of us (including in this thread) have likewise accepted the postmodern, feminized, secular-progressive myth that men need only sexual access, it’s far more painful to see how we’ve stripped the very soul from the American feminine experience. Contemporary women revel in their inner “goddesses”, even while believing they are no more than vehicles for petty thrills and social competition.
Why are American men staying single in droves? The answer is that there are no real single women left in this country in any quantity. Men die years earlier than women, especially when single, while women own billions of dollars more in personal property, partly as the result.
The final myth is that men need only sex and that women need companionship. Precisely the opposite is true — men greatly desire bona fide, classical female companionship and women do not desire true male companionship unless they can compete with it, having been sold that “progressive” bill of goods.
