I’m 46 years old, and never been married. Never really been interested, really. Not because I’m a perpetual adolescent, but because I’ve never met a woman that I’d really want to marry. A large part of that is that a large number of women go into a relationship with the belief that the man owes them something.
I know a lot of unmarried women in my age group. And almost to a one, they place all blame for their being unmarried on the men. Only one actually takes the effort to talk with men, and shows interest in them when they’re out together. Of course, she was married for 15 years. The interesting thing is that when she was married, she listened to all her female friends complain about men, and by proxy, she placed the blame on men. After her divorce, when she reentered the dating pool herself, she did a complete 180, and now she wonders why any man in his right mind would get involved with a woman these days. It makes things a lot harder for her, because guys are so used to women “having a chip on their shoulder” (her words), it takes them a while to realize and accept that she takes them seriously.
Since I’m not fat, ugly, stupid, broke/unemployed, or the like, my female friends have had to come up with all sorts of explanations for my unmarried state. They range from my being gay, to “afraid of women”, to “permanent adolescent” to “too picky” (yeah, it’s the guys who are too picky), to “selfish”. Like this article, those opinions were developed without any input from actual men. The only one to actually ask me was the divorcee, and she followed the question with “not that I blame you for not wanting to”.
Unfortunately, a majority of women these days seem to expect men to be walking wallets who will do their bidding, and resent the fact that they’re not walking up to the plate.
A large complaint men have is that women won’t take responsibility. Everything that goes wrong is his fault. Articles blaming men just reinforces the stereotype that these women are spoiled brats we’re better off without.
