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Ask Dr. Helen: Single Men in Never-Neverland

February 7, 2008 - 1:05 am - by Helen Smith
leishman
2008-02-07 07:08:37

Interesting topic. I’m 59, with four kids (three sons, one daughter) ages 22 to 34, none married or even close to being so, nor desiring to be so, and I’m not sure why. Some of it is educational (the older three are still pursuing their education, i.e. graduate school). My daughter is afraid of having kids that she will “screw up” (she’s in a PhD psychology program!) and two of my sons are not on the traditional success-trip. My two youngest sons (29 and 22) have both seen the ways our system that “empowers” women at their expense (bogus sexual harrassment allegations) and that tells them of their manifold and manifest flaws for being male. I think they believe that young women’s many expectations make my sons think it’s not worth the trouble.