As noted in one of my other comments, I was young and i made mistakes. You have no idea what it is like to be 17 and pregnant. You made it sound like I intentionally got pregnant at that age. I was going to give him up for adoption since an abortion was out of the question. My parents had no idea that I had considered adoption. I had plans and goals. I didn`t want anyone or anything to get in the way of them. Now keep in mind that my parents had no idea about the adoption thing, when one night my mom and I had a discussion. She had heard on the news about a child who was killed by his parents. A child that they so much wanted and they had adopted him becasue they couldn`t have children of their own. Fear set in. So many questions ran through my mind.
Youre wrong about the husband and father thing. Youre how old and you still haven`t learned not to tell pple what they can and can`t do. I think that a single mother or father who goes into a relationship expecting or looking for a mommy or a daddy for their child(ren) is wrong. When you go into a realtionship their needs to be something more on the agenda. Such as looking for a lifelong partner. If you go into a relationship with that one thing on your mind then you will miss out on the other good stuff that the other party has to offer to the realtionship. Marriage isn`t just about kids.
I would also like to remind you that as noted in a previous comment that i have been this a good man for several yrs. waht i did not note was that he loves my children and he wants take them on as his. We are do to get married…yes I have the ring. I`m not ready for him to help witih the financial part of things. That i had also noted ealier. when you do things on your own for awhile it`s hard to accept help. Like I had also mentioned ealier these children are mine. They are my responsability, not his. I do realize that when he becomes their step dad that they wil beocme his responsability as well. Thats what he keeps telling me. He also said i need to release some of my control over to him. I need to let him help in all areas. He said I am to strong willed and independant.
No I do not watch “The Deadliest Catch”. That show has no significants to us. If we want fish, we catch our own. We don`t need to pay someone to do the work that we can do ourselves. If we needed to have someone do our work for us then I am better off calling this contractor who has a sign on his van that reads “we fix what your hubby fixed”.
Now if you will excuse me I need to call the realator about a bigger house I had found. We are trying to prepare for future grandchildren. Well not just that. We want to buy as much land as we can so we can have it to pass on to the family when we die.
