I remember being the “nice” (read: cowardly) guy who couldn’t get it on. My problem was, however “nice” I was being, I was treating the girl like she was a problem to be solved. “I don’t know how to talk to women.” is the common lament. Here’s the trick: There is No Trick. Stop trying to “talk to women” and just talk to people.
Women find you interesting the moment you stop spending your waking hours worrying about how to get in their pants. It amounts to saying to yourself; “I don’t care if I get any tonight or not. I’m going to have some fun.” Then mean it. Then do it. Take some blows to your ego. Get rejected. Feel the pain. Then stand up and tell the crowd a joke. You’ll be chasing them off with a stick.
I went from being Captain “Why-Won’t-Anyone-Love-Me?” to my parents giving my girlfriends serial numbers in jest because it was impossible for them to keep track. Fortunately, this period lasted but a few years before I began seeing my wife. It was fun, but I’m in a much better place now.
