I would disagree with Marion and say evidence shows that she is quite wrong. Dalrymple’s “Life at the Bottom” shows working-class women in Britain DO NOT like thoughtful guys, but rather the most hyper-macho.
And I see the same trendline in the US. If all relationships are transient, why not simply bed the most high-status, macho, high-risk-taking masculine A-Lister possible? In that environment: relationships disposable and easy to get out of, with women (rightfully) having independence, women choose (in the main, individuals will vary) the most masculine appearing man possible.
Personal qualities, such as loyalty, decency, honor; or infidelity, abusiveness, dishonor don’t matter one way or another — they are irrelevant.
For men to be successful in a relationship they MUST LIE about who and what they are. If you were good enough as you are you’d already be in a relationship now wouldn’t you?
They’ll have to “sell” themselves as more masculine and desirable men than “Brand B” their competitors. Thoughtfulness and consideration have nothing to do with it, one way or another. Given the transience of relationships.
