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2008-01-23 12:40:20
As someone struggling with this myself (not a virgin, but been inactive for last 20 or so years) I think some people are missing the point. It isn’t “just go to happy hour and talk”, that in itself causes anxiety and panic attacks. “Relax, don’t worry about it, it’ll happen” isn’t the issue. There is a real inability to make the small talk and let things flow that a few words and a pat on the back aren’t going to help. We know all that, it is just that forces beyond our control seem to take over. Therapy and possibly short term medication can help. “Tricking women” or playing the sooth lothario are all well and good once you can play the game, but if you fumble the ball, badly, every time, then you aren’t ready for the game yet.
