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I think the issue of male teachers at most grade levels is moot. Society as a whole has decided that education, particularly at lower levels, is a female role and male teachers are “suspect.” There are any number of molestation cases I read in my local newspaper, and the obvious risk is that which society responds to.

The debate is just over. Male teachers will be slowly phased out except perhaps football and other male athletic coaches who will teach something on the side in HS.

The obvious “opportunity cost” risk is that boys will lose any appropriate male role model, particularly with the epidemic of single motherhood, but society has decided to focus on the obvious cost (molestation risk) and avoid thinking about the other less obvious risk (lack of male role models causes boys to grow up unfocused and dysfunctional and unable to channel themselves into productive ways).

As for the “hot older teacher and adolescent boy” issue, I think the question dodges the main issue. It might or might not harm or benefit the boy or the woman, depending on circumstance.

But the big issue is how boys are taught (and mostly are not) to approach women in ways to enhance romantic success. I think we are entering a sea-change in how boys/men relate to women.

Boys who have early physical maturity, higher levels of testosterone and related aggressiveness, risk taking, generally experience positive reactions from approaching girls and have expectations of success in any relationship or prospective relationship with women. Confidence is built on past experience of success, starting at an early age.

MEANWHILE, boys who mature later, experience rejection, as their female peers select the lucky genetic few who mature physiologically early. They lack confidence as their past experience is one of rejection in favor of more aggressive peers. They are likely to have negative views of girls/women and either become too aggressive or withdrawn into various substitutions. Such as games, porn, etc.

I don’t think we as a society do a good job preparing most boys to succeed in relationships. And even if we rounded up every Desperate Housewife it would not do much good since there wouldn’t be enough numbers to make a difference (in producing a confidence-boosting experience). It’s interesting to note also that the teenager the Desperate Housewife engages in activities with is “hunky” and not the type of boy who would need confidence boosters.

The appearance on the scene of a guy like “Mystery” frankly disturbs me. I take it as a sign of a cultural failing.