Ask Dr. Helen: Should Men Be Kicked Out of the Church Nursery?
“How could I have been the victim if that was what I wanted?”
Huh?! That excuses a lot of trouble teenagers can get into, then. Drug use by teenage boys should be allowed under that justification. There were days when I was a teenager that I wanted someone to run over me with a car and end my emotional pain, too. Had it happened I still would have been a victim.
“All I hear are people living in some academic bubble, separated from real life.”
I fail to understand how you are different. You are speculating about the effects of something that never happened to you. You THINK it would have been a good thing. You don’t know.
Your fantasies are just that. Why would you bother picturing a situation where things could actually turn out badly for you? Did you fantasies include getting caught by the woman’s husband and killed in a fit of jealous rage? No? Why not?
Did your fantasies include a woman coaxing you into her home, then she and her husband restraining and viciously torturing you? No? Why not?
Did your fantasies include getting the woman pregnant, her getting divorced, and then chasing after you for years insisting that she still loves you, wants to be with you and expects you to be a father to her child? No? Why not?
Get a grip on “real life” yourself, Sean. You can’t imagine it being a bad thing because a) you don’t want to, and b) it never happened to you. And yet I’M the one in an “academic bubble” and out of touch with real life? It sounds to me like you’re living in a dream world. I’ll take my bubble, thanks.
