Ask Dr. Helen: Should Men Be Kicked Out of the Church Nursery?
Sean,
“You’re bringing your own feminine baggage to this.”
It depends how young we are talking about. Should 12 year old boys really be having sex with their teachers? Women abuse more children under the age of six than other age groups, do you agree that this is okay?
As a psychologist, I have seen what abuse by men and women has done to many boys. It can result in anger, violence and a lifetime of pain. I understand that there is a difference between a healthy older teen, 16 and up having sex with an older woman. That is probably fine if the boy is not coerced–but to think that all boys, except for the rare weirdo would benefit psychologically from early sex with a TEACHER is a bit of a stretch. On the other hand, I don’t think teachers should be sent to jail for long prison terms for having sex with students of either sex who are willing.
Paul,
You are right. Children do need men involved in their lives as part of their psychological development. The 100% risk of taking men out of children’s lives and the damage that will do has to be weighed against the very small chance that a child will be abused in the church nursery.
