I think I’m still stuck back at jeering at their marriages. A marriage is a contract, or a covenant, depending. It has two parties and a witness signing said contract. We expect children, but don’t require them. A party stepping out of that marriage, for any sort of extra-marital affair- is “cheating” on the marriage. It is still a valid, real marriage.
It literally does not matter if the emotional state of the cheating party is that the marriage is not “real” b/c the physical attributes of the non- marital sexual partner are different or the same.
Have some respect. it’s a real marriage, even if if involves bi-sexual, try-sexual, porn-sexual, swinger-sexual, bad-sexual, shy-sexual, boring-sexual partners. It might feel unfair to the mistress, but it’s a real marriage, of durable length and legal sturdiness.
If we out married congress-critters, must we also out ones having affairs, or alienated and lonely, so that we can pressure them on other points?
And- it’s gossip. One could creditably, “out” a person that one doesn’t like. How do you disprove a negative?
And- not everyone has a “gay-dar.” It takes a particularly slovenly mind to jump to prurient conclusions about someone’s naked habits. I haven’t got one. I don’t even know the little flags of solidarity that this group has. I know the little sub-groups I’m part of’s signs- but I don’t expect anyone else to notice, or care. My next door neighbor had to tell me point-blank that she had taken up women, after having three children with three different men. I didn’t know that the rainbow sticker meant anything other than that she was a seventies disco throwback. Why wouldn’t I think that? Her kids had rollerskates to play on their driveway.
