It must be understood that the main (non-physical) difference between the sexes is emotional complexity. Think of a persons emotions as a machine. A mans emotional machine is a fairly simple thing, only about a dozen moving parts. At least one of these is money, another is sports and at least three more deals with sex.
By comparison a womans emotional machine is made up of hundreds, perhaps thousands of moving parts. As with any sufficiently complex system, it is impossible to predict how it will react in a given situation. Her emotional machine is so intricate, so Rubegoldberg in its construction, that she sometimes has emotions even she can not adequately describe. It is even more common for her to be at a loss to explain the reasons for her emmotions. By comparison the man is a near perfect zen construct, living in the now and concerned with little beyond the current problem before them.
Thus, asking a man to understand a womans emotional needs is a bit like asking a chimp to fly a 747 through a thunderstorm. There are shrieking sirens, flashing lights,… the chimp has this feeling that something terrible is happening but he has no idea what the hell is going on. In desperation he begins slapping buttons and pulling levers in a vain attempt to get this huge, incomprehensible thing to turn away from danger. If anything goods comes out of it all its due mainly to dumb luck.
And that by the way is why men buy flowers. They seem to work. We dont know why they work (neither do the women who recieve them) but we remember that tactic working in the past so we give it another go.
So remember ladies, when you ask your guy what he’s thinking while he’s staring off into space, he’s telling you the truth. Nothing, he’s thinking about nothing. It’s not that women are smarter or men are dolts. Men just have quiter minds.
