Anon2
I was going to say some of what you added, but I thought that adding a bunch of “what ifs” to what I already wrote might be overwhelming.
It is true, there is a saying that men marry expecting that she will never change, while women marry expecting that he will.
In truth, both men and women change and so do their preferences and expectations.
Libidinous men can experience a drop off in desire, while their wives can experience the exact opposite.
Casually religious persons can become very observant quickly and vice versa.
Some spouses react with aplomb to these changes, for others it prompts divorce proceedings.
AST
I agree, an unrealistic expectation of storybook romance is *very* un-helpful to a marriage. A better ideal, I think would be for a person to look for someone whom they respect enough to play second fiddle to, but who is kind enough to not want that.
Anyone who wouldn’t accept being “second” to a spouse from time to time, shouldn’t be married to them.
