I think it’s the ideal for both men and women to get married and be happy together. Our current social atmosphere, unfortunately, does a whole lot to make that difficult to do. Instead of echoing what has already been ably said by others, I’ll just add:
Ladies, if you subscribe to the fallacy that you can ‘tell’ what your man is thinking, without asking, you need to stop before even considering marriage. Nothing is as infuriating as having motives – usually of the unsavory sort – ascribed to yourself that no amount of discussion can sway you from that belief. You’re not mind-readers; mind-readers don’t exist. The Oprah/Dr. Phil Psychological Diagnosis is best left to daytime TV shows. There is no more sure way to alienate your man than to presume to read his motives and thoughts without, y’know, asking what his motives and thoughts are.
Also, take a moment and, without thinking it through, quickly list the five reasons you want to be married. If all of those reasons have to do with what he can do for you and not one of them has to do with what you can do for him, step back and rethink what marriage is all about. It’s a two-way street. A good man will get enormous satisfaction from contributing to your happiness, and he expects the same from you. After all, marriage is ultimately about supporting each other and making your spouse happy that you are in their life.
