My two cents is that anyone considering marriage should spend some time and map out (in as much detail as possible) what they *expect* from marriage in general and from a particular marriage partner.
Here’s the hard part. You then need to *TELL* the would be spouse what you expect. Then, the two of you need to hash out the differences. If they are un-hashable, don’t get married.
This won’t guarantee success, but you will at least avoid some surprises.
Potential topics to cover
Sex (frequency, etc)
Money
- What do you plan to buy in your life
- Who pays the bills
- Does your share of the earning equal your share of the decision making?
- How much to spend on: savings, home, car….
Religion/Politics
- What do you believe?
- What do you not believe?
- What is important to you?
Children
- Any? How Many?
- schools
- discipline
- religion
Holidays
- Where?
- With whom?
Careers
- Who does what and for how long?
- Career related moves
- Job loss or Career change.
Household
- Chores
- Who lives with you (esp blended families)
