Some say early marriage is good, some say not to get married too young.
There was a time when men and women were considered adults, competent in life skills and ready for marriage and family and all the responsibilities that go along with those, at 18. Not so much anymore, though such people do exist.
I’m sure I’m not the only person who married at 22 and divorced by 25 because “it was time to get married” only to discover the guy I’d married was… just a jerky guy;
Age is not so critical; maturity is. Surely those wanting children shouldn’t wait too long; I beat the odds when I married at 39 and had babies at 41 and 43. I wouldn’t suggest that as a strategy, but, it worked for me.
And that’s all we can share here – what worked or is working for us. Be a grownup when you marry, and marry a grownup. A man with friends is good; a guy with a gang of drinking buddies without whom he can’t spend a Saturday night is bad. A computer geek can be good; a guy addicted to gaming is not. Women need to learn to tell the difference. Seek premarital counseling (it’s not just for “religious” folk) to recognize problem areas before they become problems and learn how to deal with them – or discover you can’t. Expend more time and energy planning the marriage than the wedding.
