Generally, her advice was good, but obvious (but then again, sadly, a lot of women I dated really didn’t “get it” that marriage was more than just diamond rings and a big party.)
Her advice has a big hole in it namely the “find the right man” part. That’s “the catch”, isn’t it? Young women in our culture are LOUSY about finding the “right” men. Too many sleep around or on the opposite end, they’re passive or even worse, passive aggressive.
Relationships begin BEFORE we meet someone because we bring ourselves to the relationship and that’s a lifetime work. Since most career women still expect a man to be a decent breadwinner (and in many cases, have to compete with her), the supply of such men are rather scarce and sitting around waiting for the fish to hop into the bucket isn’t going to work.
In addition, since it’s that much more difficult for men to earn a living due to feminism and the family court system punishes young men who marry, these women really need to work on their own personalities. A proper guest, especially if the man is paying (and most so-called liberated women prefer this), doesn’t whine about how he treats the waiter because she should be busy engaging in pleasant dinner conversation, bringing a dinner gift (even if just a card saying thank you for his generosity), etc.
Congrats to Dr. Helen Smith for observing that a social contract that’s all benefits for women and few if any legal liabilities is a good thing for women, but now it’s a question of getting qualified “right” men to sign on the dotted line in time…
