I would say, “yes,” women should get married, and most of my advice would be obvious. The key is marrying the right person, of course.
The biggest thing I would advise is not to “roll the dice.” As it says in the book, “How to avoid marrying a jerk,” there is a hierarchy in relationships. This is “know-trust-rely-commit-touch.”
If you trust someone more than you know them, you’re gambling with your life. If you rely on someone more than you trust them, you’re asking for trouble. If you commit to someone who has shown themselves unreliable, you’re practically begging to marry a jerk.
If you’re looking for a marriage, it’s only when the know-trust-rely-commit attributes are in the right order that you should allow the hormones of sex to get involved. Don’t let sex drive the relationship. Let the relationship, um, drive the sex.
One last thing, and this may balance out the above analysis: If you can ease that women’s tendency to overthink the relationship, you’ll do better than if you think, “Oh, he forgot that, so that means I can’t trust him.”
Take a look at your man and figure out if you know him, he’s trustworthy, reliable and keeps his commitments. And remember, men may be honest and loyal in one area, and not in others. Don’t over-generalize. The guy who wouldn’t dream of cheating anyone out of a dime may think nothing of boffing your best friend, and vice versa.
My two cents. YMMV.
