I think the Millenials are reacting quite common-sensically against a lot of what their parents did (mine as well.) Many of them were interested in marriage but only for themselves, and ruined their marriages through selfishness. Granted, no amount of selflessness on the part of one partner can force the other to do the same…
The sad part (for my situation) was that my parents were not actually poorly matched at all. They just both had holdouts that – in the end – turned out to create an uncrossable rift between them.
If I had any advice for a woman, even though I’m not married, it would be this:
1. Watch how the guy treats wait staff, bell hops, taxi drivers, etc.
2. Find a man who is involved in other things than just himself (like video games)
3. Find a man with goals – not necessarily sky high goals, but goals that are real.
4. Allow yourselves to attract naturally, by not forcing yourself on him (or letting him force himself on you), but allowing yourselves to do things together with others – that way he can’t always be ‘on his best behavior’ and you will get to see more of the real him.
This is just my opinion as a guy from what I’ve seen with different relationships. So you can take it into consideration if you fancy it useful.
The constant calling thing I think is an excellent point; if you can’t think of any reason to call the man other than to babysit him, he’s going to feel like he’s not an equal partner.
I definitely believe women should get married; if for no other reason than the demographic decline. Besides that, there is something wonderful about two becoming one.
