I have a tale to tell, and a question for the women posters here.
I’m still a married man – sort of – with three adult children. I fell in love with a wonderful girl at a church I visited. I proposed, my widowed mother was pleased, and then she talked about the family money. She would put good money into the marriage but everything would be in my mother’s name, not mine.
Of course I asked why, and she said to trust her on this; you must NEVER let a wife get at the family money or the marriage will probably fail. I found a couple of aunts had made the same arrangement with my cousins so I accepted it myself, and was happily married for many years.
When my mother died I inherited, and I felt I could trust the wife I loved – I put the cash in our joint account and discussed various investment plans with her.
Yep, you guessed, the money vanished from the account and she threatened to call the police and have me thrown out if I protested. And, she could stop me seeing the children whenever she wanted, so I’d better not upset her about the slightest thing even once.
She became a tyrant to the children too with her constant nagging, coldness and insults. She soured their outlook on life permanently. The house is cold and filthy, and gets no visitors that I know of. She dresses and acts like some grasping old miser out of a fairy-tale. I avoid visiting “home” now.
Question for the women posters here: How is it that men’s mothers seem to have known EXACTLY how to produce a happy home for generations, but women in general never mention that?
