I can only speak from personal experience. Draw your own conclusions. I have been divorced for 3 years from my high school sweetheart for 18 years. My x wife only worked part time when she needed extra cash for her and I was always the provider for our family. We have 3 children together. My x wife used to complain that I was traveling and did not spend enough time at home with our family as my job requires me to travel at times for a couple of weeks at a time. I left my job and took a serious pay cut in order to stay home and be with my family more often. A few months after my job change my x wife came to me and told me that she did not feel the same love for me as before and felt love for me like a sister would. She felt we needed a break from one another. I was hurt but gave her space and moved into a separate bedroom. My close friends warned me that they found her behavior strange for a woman in her early 40s with 3 kids. I did not listen to them and told them that she worked part time at a church and would never think of her cheating on me. A few weeks later I returned home from work early to find her in bed with the church handyman. The result was a one sided divorce that resulted in my providing for her, her new live in boyfriend and loosing my family. I thought about suicide many times and would never contemplate marriage again. I work multiple jobs to pay for the mistake that I committed the day I took my vows. My children are being used as pawns as she won’t even use the child support to provide for their needs. If my oldest son comes to me and asks me if I think he should get married. I will tell him the truth that the only good that came from my marriage was them and that the rest has been pain. Good luck and I hope you don’t find yourself in my situation. I feel sad that if I ever find a good women the only thing I can offer her is a broken man.
