I recently had a friend inform me that I should get on Match.com because my ex has a profile listed on there. I noticed a lot of single mothers that discussed how they were divorced and how they have custody of the baby/kid and them listed all of the normal expectations of a man they are looking for on those sites. I was actually emailed by a woman who was 30 and explained her divorce, etc.
Then I found my ex’s profile. Imagine marrying someone, having a child with her (my own flesh and blood), then having her file for divorce for something stupid. The family court would demand that you pay $800/mo child support for 18-21 yrs (plus all the trimmings…legal fees, half of pension, 401K, alimony, etc. etc. This is extremely painful and humiliating per se and my new reality.
Then, I see like 8 pics of my ex holding my own flesh and blood marketing herself to every man in the area. Talking about how the divorce is over and she has custody and she’s ready to find her new man to live with, care for, love, etc. etc.
My feelings are ineffable. I can’t describe this feeling I have. Before you marry, please spend some time looking at the shameless single mothers of Match.com. Maybe you can avoid the humiliation of losing everything and then being approached anytime/anywhere by anyone from your past and having them say, “Hey, I saw your ex and kid on this web-site, looks like she is looking for a replacement, ha ha ha!”
