earlier I posted and indicated that I was rather against marriage in today’s culture and I’ve noticed a number of other men show similar leanings.
I think those that put it best indicated an understanding that marriage doesn’t have the same meaning it once did. And the increasing number of divorces and single mothers show that.
The problem is that woman are now being told they don’t need to have a man in their life to succeed. They are told they can raise children on their own, with generous support from the government, and sadly, too many people actually bless this arrangement with government as father de facto.
So now, marriage doesn’t benefit the women like it should. Admittedly they should find their husband to be a companion, supporter, partner and lover, but they no longer need him for those. Women are told that they can take any man as a lover, not to cleave to one man. They are told that by themselves they can make the money to raise children and keep a home. The police will protect them and their children. Teachers can serve in loco parentis to help teach right and wrong. And if they fail in their career, welfare and other programs from the government will keep a roof over their heads and food in their stomachs (if the government doesn’t just use child support to steal the money from the father to provide for her.)
the whole marraige contract has become a lie.
In an earlier age, it was well understood.
Women especially when pregnant didn’t have many opportunities for work and also needed protection from the many dangers they faced.
Men wanted children, but also wanted some assurance that they were raising their own children.
So cultures developed an agreement we now call marriage.
The woman promises to stay with the man and have children with him. She will let no other man touch her sexually, and will respect and honor him.
the man will go out and earn the provender for the family, build and maintain the home and protect his wife and children. He would also honor his wife by not looking elsewhere for companionship.
that was the agreement. But now, women can provide for themselves, so the man is not seen as necessary by a generation of women. They have lost respect for marriage and men are fleeing it as they no longer believe they will receive fair treatment.
Sad, but its reality.
what’s worse is if you look at the societies where large numbers of children are still being born, most are still very patriarch and violent. Unmarried men who have little prospect of finding a woman often take great risks hoping to achieve some significant and glorious victory to attract or win women, and the men who do interest women work hard to keep them from achieving any level of freedom. We may mock them, but culturally there is an understanding that allowing women to control marriage will only destroy it as an institution and for now, those cultures fight against it.
