Helen:
“Seriously, you have a shallow perspective on relationships and human beings in general.” Actually, no. Just pointing out that a lot of people are. And that men are as notorious (or more so) for leaving a woman for a younger model as women are for leaving an out of work man — given they have the personal assets to have an attractive option. And often the person getting divorced for their partner’s shallow reasons, are equally shallow — it’s just that their shallow reasons are still being met.
college kid:
True, and thank God. Puts me in a position to be able to work and earn a good living. Financially, I can leave whenever I want — an option a woman without a career doesn’t have unless she wants to risk having to work at McDonalds to pay the bills, regardless of how unfair some divorces are to the man.
Ciaran:
Two kids and 20 years later, and being fairly analytical by nature, having fairly good eye sight and a mirror — not so much. Actually, never was at the front of the pack.
Still married, still liking it. Have two great kids, now adolescents. Didn’t marry for wealth, power, or even six pack abs. And will neither destroy my mate nor be destroyed by him, financially or emotionally, if we divorce. But I am impatient with hypocrites.
That being said, there are some horrible divorce stories on both sides of the fence. I’m not sure there are any laws that could be written that can stop shallow, needy, etc. couples that divorce from hurting each other — or even keep one from being hurt more than the other.
Also, the laws we have now were, by and large, passed by males, and most judges interpreting the laws are still male. Kind of intriguing to consider the psychology that would cause them to be more harsh on men.
