Yep, someone’s finally nailed it. That’s why I’m still single at 62….and intend to stay that way.
Everytime I got close, either some guy I knew well would get hit with a divorce (and taken to the cleaners) or a new acquaintance would come from the ranks of the walking wounded. Once I heard the story, I realized it could just as easily have been me.
More easily, really. These guys were all straight-up, hard working, considerate, thoughtful men with few issues. I looked up to many of them. If that’s what happens to the good guys, then what chance would someone with obvious faults have?
Thank Heaven I realized at a young age (in the 1960s) that it would never work. It’s much worse now.
I’ve made many mistakes and I continue to make mistakes; but they’re all minor and easy to recover from. Throw a marriage into the mix and any one of them could have led to ruin.
My only regret: The folks never understood.
SJ
