I’m a 36 year old never married man, but I”ve been close a couple of times and after my last “relationship” I know that for me marriage is unlikely.
To put it bluntly, women now have pretty much all the power due to the way divorce laws work.
No-fault had become a great way for a woman to lie and cheat her way into a marriage and then hold over the man the threat of “if you don’t completely surrender to me, I can steal at least half your money.” if there are kids make it 80%. There doesn’t have to be a real reason. the man could have done nothing wrong other than just being himself, but if the wife decides she’s “bored” or “interested in another man” or “feeling trapped” or any other idea she gets in her head, she can file and immediately demand a huge portion of her soon to be ex-husbands income.
Add in they way that children are now used as a weapon, and marriage becomes even less interesting.
Me, I want to have children someday. I want to meet a woman would can be my best friend, my companion, my lover and my wife. But it has to be a joining of equals, not of me being expected to crawl around and wait on “her highness” as my last girlfriend started planning once I started talking about getting a ring. (Thank god that she revealed her true self before I took the final step.)
My recommendation to anyone who does ask me is to consider the environment the woman grew up in. If she had a close, loving and married set of parents, then it might work. Otherwise, I recommend just staying as a couple and avoiding the ring.
Or as a wise man I once met said:
There are 3 rings in marriage
The engagement ring
The wedding ring
and the suffering.
