My wife and I have been happily married for 24 years. Are things perfect? No, but then “the perfect is the enemy of the good.” Demanding perfection of imperfect people is bound for failure and is a sign of immaturity. We have a good solid marriage and love one another very much. Life is good.
While they say that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, it doesn’t necessarily mean that any given marriage has a 50-50 chance of failure. I’ve known several serial marryers who’ve been married 3 or more times. Likewise, I know dozens of people who’ve been married for decades to a single partner.
Here are a few suggestions to a young man thinking of marriage:
1. Don’t even think about it until you’re at least 25. If you’re still sowing your wild oats and chasing women, you aren’t ready for marriage.
2. If your potential bride seems more interested in your income and assets than in you, run.
3. If your fiance starts exhibiting “bridezilla” tendencies, run even faster. A wedding is a ceremony. Along with the reception, it’s all over in a few hours. A marriage is something you want to last a lifetime. If you find yourself planning your wedding more than your marriage, then you have problems.
Maybe I’m just lucky. I do thank God I didn’t marry some of the women I dated before meeting my wife. Marriage is supposed to be a true partnership between two people. It far more than about sex.
