At biggest issue here is the changing position of women in society. For years men were in charge in the workplace and women were in charge at home. Our society has worked to ensure that women have an equal chance at work but nothing has been done to equalize the man’s power at home.
With the incentives to reward female promotion at work many men find themselves at a disadvantage in the workplace because of their sex. This may actually be the right way to deal with correcting decades of female unfriendly work conditions.
What this means, however, is that men find themselves facing the choice to enter into another social arena at a disadvantage. Marriage and long term relationships have always trended toward female control and modern men are being asked to submit to females both at work and at home in many cases.
Add to that the fact that many of the women looking to marry have no intention of raising the children from that marriage. Men’s concession to women at home was in many ways a trade off to have a caretaker and stay at home parent. Women have removed that option – sacrificing it at the altar of their professional lives.
Society for women is a win (work), win (home control). For men it is the exact opposite. By the time many of these women figure this out men have settled into a quiet happiness of having no control over their professional lives but being in total control of the off-work hours without the stereotypical unhappy, constantly nagging, “you have to do better and constantly change to make me happy while I get to stay the same” dynamic that marriage has always included. Add to that it is in fashion to bash men almost constantly for being stupid, unsophisticated and boorish.
Who in their right mind would want anything to do with that?
