It is not a crap shoot. A common sense of the nature and purpose of marriage can go far to ensure it will last. Men should not consider as candidates for marriage any woman who thinks that marriage is just a contractual agreement between two individuals; who thinks that the romance of feeling love is more essential to marriage than the hard work of sacrificially loving someone; who is not committed to (and who does not expect from her husband) absolute fidelity; for whom a professional career will be more important than being a mother (or than being a mother of “too many” children). Obviously religious faith can do a lot to instill (and signal) the appropriate marriage-oriented dispositions. (But of course even religious women today are still prone to some corruption by modern anti-family ideas).
