I got lucky on the 3rd try. This one has lasted 30 years and is absolutely great. The first two were quite painful to end and I almost didn’t go for the 3rd one for that reason. And back then I don’t think the court system and the culture were as bad for men as they are today.
I credit the success of my current marriage to my wife’s father. He did not raise his daughter to expect Daddy to do everything for her. He was a true feminist before his time. He was a physicist who believed that women could be equal to men in the sciences if they wanted to be. He encouraged his daughters to pursue whatever goals they decided upon and to believe they would be attainable through, and only through, hard work.
As a result, I have been blessed with a wife who loves men, especially me, appreciates everything I do for her, but does not believe that men, especially I, were put on earth to serve her and make her happy. Partly for that reason, I do everything I can to make her happy. But we both also know that ultimately she is responsible for her happiness, not I.
So to you young guys, pay close attention to the relationship your intended has with her father. It’s important.
